30 Day Sex Challenge

Posted Under: sex, spirituality

People are not having enough sex. An epidemic of breakups proves the needs that lead to a great sex life are being overlooked. Dirty dishes, frumpy clothes, and a lack of authentic connections are killing the romance. A great sex life is a challenge and takes focus, determination, and planning. Some say it’s an unrealistic goal, but we disagree. We believe you can have a great sex life, in fact we believe God wants you to have a great sex life.

Relevant Church is proposing a challenge encouraging married couples to purposely engage in sexual activity for 30 days and singles to intentionally forgo sexual activity for 30 days. We know, it sounds crazy. However, we believe this challenge will not only improve sex lives, but also strengthen relationships. In this series married couples will review the obvious needs of him and uncover the forgotten needs of her and singles will cut through the illusions and consider the qualities that result in healthy relationships.

Are YOU having enough sex?

Log on to 30daysexchallenge.com to find out how to download the “married” and “single” challenge guide.

A Lesson About Prayer

Posted Under: life, spirituality

It amazes me sometimes how deceptive people are but oftentimes my Spirit allows me to find out things that people don’t think I know, or things they try to purposely hide from me. I remember being in a hotel room once and getting a gut feeling and knowing that someone I was traveling with was in another room with someone else. It was a late night hook up because we were in a convenient city and their booty call was “in town”. But that’s not where I’m going with this story.

Say for instance you are praying for a person to receive a certain thing and so you pray and you pray and you pray, but still this person is seemingly still going through what they were going through with seemingly no answer to the prayer. So, being diligent you pray some more and still nothing. You think to yourself this person is so deserving. It makes no sense that the prayer isn’t being answered and so you feel maybe its “you” so, you pray even harder. Until you get the revelation that this person is doing all kinds of things that you have no idea about and that is what’s hindering the blessing or the flow of what is good from coming into their life. I’ve had that happen not so long ago and because of their late night creeping it prevented them from getting what they “said” they wanted because they were drawn to the thing/person that was purposely put there to distract them from what they really wanted and in the interim they had become addicted to it/them. Sadly who knows if they’ll ever get what their heart wanted. Maybe they’ve convinced themselves in anger that they don’t want it. Mouths lie. Still, His will be done.

The reason I bring it up though is that someone I used to be friends with over 10 years ago is doing the same thing now. Just asking for prayer without revealing the fact that they are still doing the thing that is “hindering” them and requiring them to need prayer in the first place. I don’t get why people do that. But I’m glad that it was shown to me in the other situation so that I know how to recognize it and stop blaming myself when the answer doesn’t come in a timely fashion. My input, if you ask for prayer do what it takes to get your breakthrough even if it means not being able to control everything you put your hands on. After all that’s what faith is. If you want to hold on to your habits, addictions to sex, alcohol, anger, money and lascivious actions–keep me out of it. I have people who want to be delivered to pray for.

Prayer Reflection

Posted Under: spirituality

My husband is reading a book on prayer and came across this particular one. He shared it with me and it moved me too. He asked me to post it to our social network and I did, but I thought the blog would benefit from it too since so many of you are either in relationships, engaged, or recently married. I’ll be reading the book next after him.

Prayer Reflection

Lord, help me to let go of my past
so that I can move into all You
have for me. I know that You
make all things new. Renew my
mind and soul so that I don’t
allow past experiences to color my
life today. Show me who I need to
forgive, and help me forgive them
completely. Heal me of all the
painful memories in my life so
that I can become all You created
me to be.

- Stormie Omartian

This prayer is from the book titled Nelson’s Personal Handbook on Prayer click here to order. Used copies are VERY affordable and VERY LIMITED in quantity.

Don’t Get Eaten By Bears

Posted Under: nature, relationships, spirituality

Every time you tell someone that you’re going camping they say, don’t get eaten by bears, as if bears only eat people who are off in a tent camping. Ha! But at any rate, I’m back Jack so, I obviously didn’t get eaten by bears. God showed up at the Love Better Camp retreat though. It’s funny because we initially scheduled it as a couple’s retreat and then when interested singles started inquiring we opened it up to both singles and couples. I figured women would flock to the event eager to be heard and make their points concerning relationships, but what we ended up with was a men’s only retreat—which is fine by me. Hey, whatever dude. We had relatively wonderful weather. I couldn’t believe that it wasn’t scorching hot especially since it’s August and the sun is normally out eager to do its thing–which is to burn you to a crisp. We cooked out, we read from the book, we discussed relationships and everybody had great points and most of all we prayed, prayed and prayed again. That’s why I love having discussions about relationships. I’ve always been the girl who was privy to male conversations and this weekend was no different. The men were honest and very forthcoming and you women–I tell you–better start given men credit for having some common sense and spiritual insight. Every man is not swayed by tight jeans, fishnet stocking with high heels or “the best sex he ever had” and to those who think that all you have to do is “put it on them” to get them to make you their wife–please go and sit down someplace, seriously. There are men who can see and experience all of that and STILL walk away from a woman–even after the “good sex”. You should have been there to see what it takes to reach the heart of a REAL man, but you can always read the book or continue thinking you don’t need it—*shrug*–whichever suits you best. At any rate, I read the book several times as I was writing it and implemented some things and I’ve got my soul mate. One day maybe you can say that too. We definitely plan on doing this again on a larger scale though. Check the photos on the Flickr.

Barack Obama: What You Won’t See On the News

Posted Under: society, spirituality

One reason why I never trust the news is because they’re biased and prevent you from getting a whole lot of truthful information and instead fill your ears and eyes with lies and half truths. This is no lie. When I saw this photograph and the subject line: photo you won’t see on any news station in our inbox–my husband said to check it out and I had to give it a look. Like him or not Obama has a secret weapon: PRAYER! Prayer gets things done–especially good old-fashioned hands on, touch and agree prayer, so, it’s official, President Barack Obama, folks! You might as well practice saying it–it’s a done deal.