Bedroom Talk

September 18, 2008 – 6:41 am

Posted Under: sex

booty parlor faire frou frou bedroom talk

I personally have always had a thing for ruffle bottom panties, not necessarily for the bedroom, but from when I was like 6 or 7, but does faire frou frou and booty parlor ie. “lingerie” and “edibles” have to be a part of your bedroom experience for you to truly enjoy yourself or can you do without it? What about your partner?

Does Beauty Guarantee Faithfulness?

September 13, 2008 – 6:04 am

Posted Under: love, relationships, sex

does beauty guarantee faithfulness

Does beauty guarantee a man or woman will be faithful in a relationship or to their spouse?

What about that infamous article? If you have the cheating gene, are some cases just a lost cause then? And does the cheating gene only apply to men?

What about that shade issues if a man or a woman has a husband or wife of a more preferred or coveted shade are they more likely to be faithful to them (ie. try harder to make it work) than if they don’t?

Let’s get deep with this one folks.

10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex

April 20, 2008 – 5:21 pm

Posted Under: random, sex

The health benefits of sex extend well beyond the bedroom. Turns out sex is good for you in ways you may never have imagined.

When you’re in the mood, it’s a sure bet that the last thing on your mind is boosting your immune system or maintaining a healthy weight. Yet good sex offers those health benefits and more.

That’s a surprise to many people, says Joy Davidson, PhD, a New York psychologist and sex therapist. “Of course, sex is everywhere in the media,” she says. “But the idea that we are vital, sexual creatures is still looked at in some cases with disgust or in other cases a bit of embarrassment. So to really take a look at how our sexuality adds to our life and enhances our life and our health, both physical and psychological, is eye-opening for many people.”

Sex does a body good in a number of ways, according to Davidson and other experts. The benefits aren’t just anecdotal or hearsay — each of these 10 health benefits of sex is backed by scientific scrutiny.

Among the benefits of healthy loving in a relationship:

1. Sex Relieves Stress

A big health benefit of sex is lower blood pressure and overall stress reduction, according to researchers from Scotland who reported their findings in the journal Biological Psychology. They studied 24 women and 22 men who kept records of their sexual activity. Then the researchers subjected them to stressful situations — such as speaking in public and doing verbal arithmetic — and noted their blood pressure response to stress.

Those who had intercourse had better responses to stress than those who engaged in other sexual behaviors or abstained.

Another study published in the same journal found that frequent intercourse was associated with lower diastolic blood pressure in cohabiting participants. Yet other research found a link between partner hugs and lower blood pressure in women.

2. Sex Boosts Immunity

Good sexual health may mean better physical health. Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections. Scientists at Wilkes University in Wilkes-Barre, Pa., took samples of saliva, which contain IgA, from 112 college students who reported the frequency of sex they had.

Those in the “frequent” group — once or twice a week — had higher levels of IgA than those in the other three groups — who reported being abstinent, having sex less than once a week, or having it very often, three or more times weekly.

3. Sex Burns Calories

Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Doubling up, you could drop that pound in 21 hour-long sessions.

“Sex is a great mode of exercise,” says Patti Britton, PhD, a Los Angeles sexologist and president of the American Association of Sexuality Educators and Therapists. It takes work, from both a physical and psychological perspective, to do it well, she says.

4. Sex Improves Cardiovascular Health

While some older folks may worry that the efforts expended during sex could cause a stroke, that’s not so, according to researchers from England. In a study published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health, scientists found frequency of sex was not associated with stroke in the 914 men they followed for 20 years.

And the heart health benefits of sex don’t end there. The researchers also found that having sex twice or more a week reduced the risk of fatal heart attack by half for the men, compared with those who had sex less than once a month.

5. Sex Boosts Self-Esteem

Boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have sex, collected by University of Texas researchers and published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.

That finding makes sense to Gina Ogden, PhD, a sex therapist and marriage and family therapist in Cambridge, Mass., although she finds that those who already have self-esteem say they sometimes have sex to feel even better. “One of the reasons people say they have sex is to feel good about themselves,” she tells WebMD. “Great sex begins with self-esteem, and it raises it. If the sex is loving, connected, and what you want, it raises it.”

6. Sex Improves Intimacy

Having sex and orgasms increases levels of the hormone oxytocin, the so-called love hormone, which helps us bond and build trust. Researchers from the University of Pittsburgh and the University of North Carolina evaluated 59 premenopausal women before and after warm contact with their husbands and partners ending with hugs. They found that the more contact, the higher the oxytocin levels.

“Oxytocin allows us to feel the urge to nurture and to bond,” Britton says.

Higher oxytocin has also been linked with a feeling of generosity. So if you’re feeling suddenly more generous toward your partner than usual, credit the love hormone.

7. Sex Reduces Pain

As the hormone oxytocin surges, endorphins increase, and pain declines. So if your headache, arthritis pain, or PMS symptoms seem to improve after sex, you can thank those higher oxytocin levels.

In a study published in the Bulletin of Experimental Biology and Medicine, 48 volunteers who inhaled oxytocin vapor and then had their fingers pricked lowered their pain threshold by more than half.

8. Sex Reduces Prostate Cancer Risk

Frequent ejaculations, especially in 20-something men, may reduce the risk of prostate cancer later in life, Australian researchers reported in the British Journal of Urology International. When they followed men diagnosed with prostate cancer and those without, they found no association of prostate cancer with the number of sexual partners as the men reached their 30s, 40s, and 50s.

But they found men who had five or more ejaculations weekly while in their 20s reduced their risk of getting prostate cancer later by a third.

Another study, reported in the Journal of the American Medical Association, found that frequent ejaculations, 21 or more a month, were linked to lower prostate cancer risk in older men, as well, compared with less frequent ejaculations of four to seven monthly.

9. Sex Strengthens Pelvic Floor Muscles

For women, doing a few pelvic floor muscle exercises known as Kegels during sex offers a couple of benefits. You will enjoy more pleasure, and you’ll also strengthen the area and help to minimize the risk of incontinence later in life.

To do a basic Kegel exercise, tighten the muscles of your pelvic floor, as if you’re trying to stop the flow of urine. Count to three, then release.

10. Sex Helps You Sleep Better

The oxytocin released during orgasm also promotes sleep, according to research.

And getting enough sleep has been linked with a host of other good things, such as maintaining a healthy weight and blood pressure. Something to think about, especially if you’ve been wondering why your guy can be active one minute and snoring the next.

Source: WebMD




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Kristin Davis’ Reps Say There is No Sex Tape!

March 18, 2008 – 9:05 am

Posted Under: celebs, sex

Kristin Davis

People who aren’t getting any play leak a sex tape. It’s become as passe as a press release. Really. Kristin Davis is the star of a homemade sex tape. Her reps are saying there is no sex tape and if there is one it is not their client starring in it. We haven’t heard from Kristin Davis since Sex and the City. The photo stills that are floating around the internet were reportedly taken from a video showing Kristin cavorting with an unknown man.

Meanwhile, adult movie star Ron Jeremy says,

“Celebrities rely on sex tapes to revive their declining careers.” He said: “I love the excuse they use - ‘Oh, I don’t know how they got a hold of it!’ It’s such a big joke now. Any celebrity that is not doing so good, they jump by having a good sex scandal.”

Okay, and there you have it. Do you believe there is a sex tape? Do you care?




Sexual Compatibility - Are You Compatible? Take the Test

January 22, 2008 – 5:22 pm

Posted Under: life, sex

Sexual Compatibility - Are You Compatible? Take the Test

I boosted these panties from Chevonne. *lol*

I took the Do you have a Sexless Relationship survey. I scored a 47. He scored a 49. Here is what our scores say about us…

43-50 points: You have a robust erotic and passionate sexual relationship . Congratulations, although you probably don’t need any pats on the back from us. Your relationship, itself, is the best reinforcement for keeping it in high gear. But don’t get complacent and don’t take things for granted. You need to keep growing to keep sex and intimacy alive in long-term relationships. Take your pick from any one of our “Tips” and use it to deepen your connection with your partner.

The website says that 5027 people have taken the survey. Here are the overall statistics. Thankfully We’re in the 8%.

15% Sex is Dead
33% Sex is comatose and in danger of dying
27% Sex is asleep and needs a wake-up call
17% Sex is alive and well
8% You have a robust erotic and passionate sexual relationship

Take the test and see what you score at: http://www.passionatemarriage.com/cgi-bin/sexless_survey.pl
Click here for their 6 Tips to Creating a More Passionate Relationship section.