Lovers Then Friends?
August 18, 2008 – 3:10 pmPosted Under: relationships
Why can’t former lovers be friends?
Don’t Get Eaten By Bears
August 10, 2008 – 4:29 pmPosted Under: nature, relationships, spirituality
Every time you tell someone that you’re going camping they say, don’t get eaten by bears, as if bears only eat people who are off in a tent camping. Ha! But at any rate, I’m back Jack so, I obviously didn’t get eaten by bears. God showed up at the Love Better Camp retreat though. It’s funny because we initially scheduled it as a couple’s retreat and then when interested singles started inquiring we opened it up to both singles and couples. I figured women would flock to the event eager to be heard and make their points concerning relationships, but what we ended up with was a men’s only retreat—which is fine by me. Hey, whatever dude. We had relatively wonderful weather. I couldn’t believe that it wasn’t scorching hot especially since it’s August and the sun is normally out eager to do its thing–which is to burn you to a crisp. We cooked out, we read from the book, we discussed relationships and everybody had great points and most of all we prayed, prayed and prayed again. That’s why I love having discussions about relationships. I’ve always been the girl who was privy to male conversations and this weekend was no different. The men were honest and very forthcoming and you women–I tell you–better start given men credit for having some common sense and spiritual insight. Every man is not swayed by tight jeans, fishnet stocking with high heels or “the best sex he ever had” and to those who think that all you have to do is “put it on them” to get them to make you their wife–please go and sit down someplace, seriously. There are men who can see and experience all of that and STILL walk away from a woman–even after the “good sex”. You should have been there to see what it takes to reach the heart of a REAL man, but you can always read the book or continue thinking you don’t need it—*shrug*–whichever suits you best. At any rate, I read the book several times as I was writing it and implemented some things and I’ve got my soul mate. One day maybe you can say that too. We definitely plan on doing this again on a larger scale though. Check the photos on the Flickr.
Breaking Up: Lost Love
August 7, 2008 – 7:34 pmPosted Under: love, relationships
What is the longest amount of time that it has taken you to get over a lost love? Details please.
Five Things You Want to Change About Your Relationship Meme
August 7, 2008 – 7:54 amPosted Under: memes, relationships
Here’s a fun meme, especially since bettering our relationships is on the resolution roster for the New Year. I’ve launched this meme to support my relationship book The Plural Thing: Spiritually Preparing for Your Soul Mate. Whether you want to dump your current, rehire your ex, the key is, just be honest and include the “meme challenge” instructions intact in your post should you choose to do it. Here are mine 5 things:
1. Get married. Yes, I’m actually late with the announcement, but we tied the knot on January 3, 2008!
2. Go on a vacation. We have wonderful day outings that I enjoy immensely but I’d love a wonderful beach house getaway for at least a month where we lounge around in the hammock and do nada. Okay, I’m pushing it, maybe 2 weeks.
3. Get fit. I want us to get fit together. We’ve cut down and he’s promised not to bake as much especially since a whole cake only lasts the two of us 3 days max.
4. More poetry. I write love poems and nothing else really. He started writing me poems too, but when life gets busy it’s hard for me/us to hear the words and think “poetry” so my goal is for things to slow down so we can begin writing to and for each other again so that we can start reading to each other in bed again.
5. Keep the newlywed feeling. I know that people “say” that the after awhile it will begin to feel like the honeymoon is over, but we are setting out to defy odds, not become a statistic and keep this feeling that is deeper than either of us has ever felt. We are looking forward to our 50th wedding anniversary.
The meme challenge is: Those tagged will share Five Things You Want to Change About Your Relationship Meme and tag five people. Leave a link to your meme from your blog in the comments section of the below link so that everyone can keep track of what’s being posted around the web. If you don’t have a blog feel free to just list your 5 things in the comments section.
Love: We Will Survive!
July 31, 2008 – 6:50 amPosted Under: love, relationships
Remember when I was so thrilled to find love in my inbox? Well, I’m still in that sacred space and it’s wonderful to be with a man who isn’t afraid to use the L word and mean it. Fact is I believe in “being” what I want and so does he. You can watch movies and live vicariously through other people’s lives or you can learn to love better, learn from past mistakes you’ve made and move forward. Why punish everybody you meet by staying “stuck” in the after affects of a relationship that didn’t work out. Love better. That’s my motto. Our motto and we’re well on our way–with God’s help of course.
