What Is Your Love Language?

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My girlfriend Jayy ran across this article and added this to our Social Nework site.

Why is it that so few couples seem to have found the secret to keeping love alive after the wedding?

The problem is that what has been overlooked is one fundamental truth: People speak different love languages.

Your emotional love language and the language of your partner may be as different as Chinese from English. Being sincere is not enough. Seldom do partners have the same primary love language. We must be willing to learn our partner’s primary love language if we are to be effective communicators of love.

There are basically five emotional love languages. Here are the five ways that people speak and understand emotional love:

Words of Affirmation: Verbal compliments, or words of appreciation, are powerful communicators of love. They are best expressed in simple, straightforward statements of affirmation.

Quality Time: Looking at each other and talking, giving your undivided attention. That twenty or more minutes of time will never be had again: we are giving our lives to each other. It is a powerful communicator of love.

Receiving Gifts: A gift is something you can hold in your hand and say “Look, he was thinking of me,” or “She remembered me”. The gift is a symbol of thought and the thought remains not only in the mind but is expressed in actually securing the gift and giving it as an expression of love.

Acts of Service: Doing things you know your spouse would like you to do. You seek to please her by serving her, to express your love for her by doing things for her. These acts require thought, planning, time, effort, and energy.

Physical Touch: For some individuals, physical touch is their primary love language. Without it, they feel unloved. With it, their emotional tank is filled, and they feel secure in the love of their spouse. The touch of love may take many forms. Don’t make the mistake that the touch that brings pleasure to you will also bring pleasure to her. When we choose active expressions of love in the primary love language of our spouse, we create an emotional climate where we can deal with our conflicts and failures.

What if the love language of your spouse is something that doesn’t come naturally to you? When an action doesn’t come naturally it is a greater expression of love.

—Source: The Five Languages of Love by Gary Chapman

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I’m curious, what is YOUR love language?

Does Love Change?

Posted Under: love, relationships

Would a lot extra weight change how you feel about the person you love?

Bird and D-Nice Tie the Knot

Posted Under: celebs, love

They got engaged in August, and then in September they started making more appearances around the town, and in December it was still going strong (that says a lot for Hollywood) so the next obvious course of action is marriage. Right here in New Jersey this weekend Malinda Williams aka Bird of “Soulfood” fame and Rapper turned cutting edge photographer D-Nice aka Derrick Jones tied the knot. I was happy to see so many of her Soulfood cast members in attendance. They look REALLY happy! He’s happy with who he is and she’s happy with who he is–perfect couple!

Summer of Love Bash in The Hamptons

Posted Under: events, love

I wasn’t there because I didn’t get an invite *smh* LA Reid hosted his “Summer of Love Bash” at his palatial estate in the Hamptons. In attendance was Mariah Carey and her sidekick (sorry Nick), Ciara, Kelly Ripa and her sidekick (sorry Mark) and LL Cool J, Samuel L. Jackson, Tyler Perry and Star Jones. Of course you would have been able to add Princess Dominique and Mr. C to the mix, but alas, I only wrote a book about The Hamptons, I don’t get to actually go–YET!

I Asked For It!

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I have some free time today (*rare*) and I felt like posting, rethinking the whole Essence network thing after receiving a nice sized payment from them and not wanting to leave my husband out of the attention loop I sent him an email at work that simply asked: What do you love the most about me? He said, “The Love & Commitment you have for God, which has brought me into a closer more understanding relationship with Him which I may have never achieved without you!” I’m greedy so I asked, “What else?” I mean, when you love someone no matter what you’re doing, it’s nice to know that they can pause and make time for you. Here’s his reply:

my wife sent me an email

and in this email she asked

what do you love the most about me?

I responded The Love & Commitment

you have for God, which brought me

closer to relating with Him

which I may have never achieved without you!

and she replied what else?

So here I pen

my response to her

I Love Everything About You!

Especially the love

you show me

everyday

i love the way God shaped and molded

you into the woman you are today

i love the way God

brought us together

and where we are

and what we are doing

together for His kingdom

and our marriage

i love the way you look at me

with eyes that are windows to your soul

i love the way

we learn and grow

from everything we experience

i love the ring you

brought me on our

six month anniversary

i love the way

you make me feel

in and out of bed!

(you know the things we do)

i love how passionate

you are about your writing

i love the poems you

create from life experiences

But most of all

I Love The Fact That

You Said I Do To Me!

Needless to say, that shut me down and turned on the waterworks. I’m always asking for it, aren’t I? *smh*