If You Can’t Say Something Nice…
January 29, 2008 – 8:34 amPosted Under: life
I’ve been working on making myself better in 2008. The old adage, “If you can’t say something nice then don’t say anything at all,” is hard for me because as a child I was an extreme introvert, I was teased about my voice and I never said much even at times when I felt like I had something crucial or important to say, like “teacher I have to go to the bathroom”. But lately I’m making up for that and people (I want to say ‘make me’) urge me to put them in their place. What offends me most is when people take kindness for weakness. You know like the boyfriend in high school who thinks he can treat you any kind of way because he knows you love him and aren’t going anywhere, but he knows that if by some great parting of the Red Sea miracle that you do summon the courage to leave, he has options so if he loses you there are 5 more drones waiting to take your place. I say drone on then. Any woman willing to be a late night substitute–have at it. Stuff like that is funny to me because I know myself. Maybe other people don’t but I know me inside out, but I will say nothing and the other person will think, “Yeah, I got it” only to be hit with reality of the matter later on down the line. I don’t play when it comes to my feelings, my safety or my livelihood. We all have issues but just like the Scribes and the Pharisees don’t point out my flaws to diminish your own. I left 2006 tired of a lot of thing and 2007 the stuff I was tired of decreased because I didn’t make a bed for some of the nonsense that went on in 2006. In 2006 I’d find notes in my inbox from people who say that they care, but then when they have the opportunity to rise above it and produce the fruit of forgiveness or make “amends”, give back my stuff, PAY ME or flat out apologize AND change their behavior, they fall short. The weird thing is that this is some grade school mess. You know, where the boy pulls out the new girl’s chair, but he’s supposed to be dating you. If you want to pull out her chair and treat her delicately THEN DATE HER. I’m not going to stand by why you stroke “her” ego but *annihilate my heart. It’s amazing how some people never grow up. We just bring that behavior into adulthood and still try to convince people that we’re all grown up because we expose our skin to the elements and it makes us age physically. There are so many boys trapped in men’s bodies. Women too. I’m going to pass on saying something unkind though. The best way for me to move on is to rise above it. After all, this earth is not my home. I guess that’s why I’ve been humming “Irreplaceable” for a week.
*an·ni·hi·late /əˈnaɪəˌleɪt/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation [uh-nahy-uh-leyt]
–verb (used with object), -lat·ed, -lat·ing.
1. to reduce to utter ruin or nonexistence; destroy utterly
2. to destroy the collective existence or main body of
3. to annul; make void
4. to cancel the effect of; nullify.
5. to defeat completely; vanquish
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4 Responses to “If You Can’t Say Something Nice…”
“people take kindness for weakness” This is so true. Many mistake that and when you do say something, they act shocked. People need to stop tripping.
By Shelia on Jan 29, 2008
Yes they need to because I’m about to go public, right here and name name.
By Miss Princess Dominique on Jan 29, 2008
No, Dominique, don’t put them on blast. LOL!
I agree, the best way to move on is to rise above it. Words of wisdom.
By don on Jan 30, 2008
I’m not going to, not yet anyway…
By Miss Princess Dominique on Jan 30, 2008