Problem Solving: Healthy Confrontation and Resolution for 2008
January 3, 2008 – 12:31 pmPosted Under: life
With the new year here many of us are determined to not take old 2007 issues into 2008. This blessed me, prayerfully it will assist you too. I’m am non-confrontational by nature but sometimes we have to nip things in the bud.
With the new year here many of us are determined to not take old 2007 issues into 2008. This blessed me, prayerfully it will assist you too.
Problem Solving: Healthy Confrontation and Resolution (Philemon 8-10)
The best way to solve many problems is to confront them. Sometimes those problems are people. Paul took great pains to confront Philemon about Onesimus. Consider these steps for confronting someone:
1. Pray through your own anger. Don’t let emotion lead you. Wait until you can be objective.
2. Initiate the contact. Don’t wait for the other person. God calls us to make things right.
3. Begin with affirmation. Encourage first, then receive permission to talk candidly.
4. Admit you have a problem. Don’t say it’s the other person’s problem; admit you are struggling.
5. Bring up the issue and explain you don’t understand what’s happened. Aim to clarify.
6. Let the person respond. After you lay out the issue, let the individual speak from his or her angle.
7. Narrow the focus. Identify and prioritize the issues. Go after one change at a time.
8. Establish forgiveness and repentance, if needed. Don’t stop until change occurs.
9. Compromise on opinions, not on principles. Be flexible with everything except truth.
10. Pray and affirm your love as you close. Never let the person doubt God’s love or yours.
Source: The Maxwell Leadership Bible (NKJV) Notes and Articles by John C. Maxwell
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4 Responses to “Problem Solving: Healthy Confrontation and Resolution for 2008”
Happy New Year Princess Dominique. I like these 10 things. Confronting issues can sometimes be hard; but in order to move forward that’s something that has to be done. Will it be painful? Sometimes. Will it cause your life to change or shift in a new direction? Absolutely. I finally did something at the end of 2007 that should have been done in the middle of 2007. After finally doing it, I asked myself, why did I wait so long. I felt like a load of bricks had been lifted off my chest. The new and unknown is exciting and scary at the same time; but overall its welcomed.
By Shelia on Jan 4, 2008
Did that…Great post!
Happy New Years to you too!
I’ll keep you posted
By G. Cornelius on Jan 4, 2008
Hey Dom, these look like great tips. And I think the inclusion of forgiveness is key. Not as much as for the other person, but for oneself. I find that it allows me to move on and put things in the past in order to cultivate stronger relationships. Great post. HAPPY NEW YEAR!
By Cherlyn on Jan 5, 2008
This is great! I really have anger managerment issues, gets me in trouble almost everyday, I will try this (especially because it has “pray through your own anger”) that’s key.
Thanks for helpful topics like this!:grin:
wow i can’t believe, I’m actually being nice.
By foxxx on Jan 19, 2008