October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month
October 18, 2007 – 7:41 amPosted Under: life
My girl “J” did it again. She just read my mind, jumped in and did her thing. I’ve been suffering on and off for almost 3 weeks with migraines. As soon as one goes away another one popped up to take it’s place. I’ve been pumped full of drugs, given a cat scan and still, tests show NOTHING. Anyway back to my point. October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. I knew that but because I couldn’t do anything grand like give away free purple ribbons on the blog I opted not to blog about it, but I take that back. I take it all back because it’s not about giving away free purple ribbons, it’s about letting people know that violence goes on and it reaches far beyond Nailah Franklin and Juanita Bynum, it may just be in your moma’s, your sister’s or your good friend’s bedroom. I’m a perfectionist so forgive me for letting half the month slip by before I decided to shine some light on it. I want people who suffer abuse or knows someone who does that it’s not forgotten and they are not forgotten, because we are spreading the word about it not only every day but ever October when people only turn their blogs pink for breast cancer. I won’t tell my own story. I won’t tell my moma’s story, but I will say, you never know how much nerve a person has to reacquire to leave an abusive situation like that, whether it is a relationship or a friendship. Remember though, a person in a situation like that is not in the same position as a rational thinking person who comes into a relationship with their self-esteem intact. Abuse is a silent and deadly process of tearing down and separating you from family, friends and monopolizing all of your time. It’s a subtle, mental manipulation which in part is my reasoning for starting a non-profit organization that boosts the self-esteem of women–later we’ll assist men. So, thanks “J” for jumpstarting this post for me. Thank you for unknowingly making me accountable.
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3 Responses to “October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month”
I tried to find purple ribbons for my blog like the pink ribbon - I know they exist so I’m still looking.
“It is the silence that will kill you.”
It can start so subtly, come in what we think of as “cute jealously” initially that we don’t recognize it. Before we know it, the pattern has been set and life isn’t “cute” anymore. And you’re right - it’s not just females as victims.
Break the cycle. Victim by victim. Day by day.
By MsJayy on Oct 18, 2007
You’re right about that. So many people overlook things like that. Not to bring up Juanita but she said it too. Shoving didn’t really seem like abuse to her, to me it’s a step below hitting and it’s all unacceptable not just in love relationships but friendships too. That’s the point I want to get out. Friendships, male/female or even male on male and female on female friendships can have abusiveness laced throughout it too. It’s sad that we continue to overlook these things and accept them as everyday occurences.
By Miss Princess Dominique on Oct 18, 2007
One thing I’ve learned over the years is that a person will only do to you what you allow them to do. If someone shows behavior that’s offensive then nip it immediately; if not, it’s like they are given the greenlight to continue to do whatever until it escalates to what can become a violent relationship. Regardless, the choice is the persons and they can choose to get out of it. It’s not easy once you’re involved in an abusive relationship; but folks need to know there is a way out.
By Shelia on Oct 20, 2007